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Bike day

July 19, 2013 (Morning)

Exercise Type: Bike

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Good half day at work. Went to yoga today for the first time since pre-WS.

Chelsea was teaching, and Jefe was there again. I walked past him without saying anything pre-class.

During class, I began to think, "You know what, I want to introduce myself to him. I NEED to.". The days of being passive need to be over, especially around him. So at the end of class, I went up to him and said, 'You're Jeff right? I'm Joe!"

Then, in playing-dumb, Neg-fashion, I ask, "Have I seen you here before? Do you come here much?". The first is playing dumb, pretending he was not on my radar. The 2nd was a neg - rubbing in that he's been a transient, part-time prescence in her life. His repsonse, was "Yeah, Wednesday through Saturday every week!". Eye contact was lacking.

BIG score. Anytime you have one of those "avoidance" situations, who ever breaks it comes out on top. I demonstrated alpha-male behavior by doing so - by being a mature adult. Maybe my intentions were immature, but no matter. It was awesome.

Went biking afterwards. Hamstring felt OK. I realized that if I repositioned MY JUNK to the right side of my seat, it was easier to be trunk-symmetrical on the bike! Ha!

Friday night: BIG night. It was dual birthday bash for Cliff and his friend Mark, who turned 39 (weird, but increasingly comfortable to have these older friends!). There was a table of about five (that would become 12+) when I got there. No Clif, just Mark and some randos.

So I talked to the randos! One of them turned out to be Eugene's State Representative in the Oregon Legislature, so it was cool to talk to her. There was another cool guy I was talking to, so we chatted and drank cold lagers in the sun outside Hop Valley. Later, a couple showed up: friends of mark's: George and his girlfriend Jaime.

George was a nice guy, but pretty bland; his girlfriend was super-hot! So, of course...I had to "game" her.

As such, I was totally invested in convos with George, the other guy, and Rep. Nancy, avoiding Jaime (other than the intro) for a good 15-20 minutes...'til she began to talk to me! Ha!

From L to R at the end of the table it was Jaime, George, then me on one side, then other guy. Well, other guy left, and George was talking to Nancy (across from me). Other guy left, so I got up, got a drink, then came back and sat next to Jaime and started into some "routines". I leared a very cool technique about how you can reframe negative experiences by replaying them in your head with a "silly theme song". It's fucking awesome. So I told her about it and ran through the activity with her. It worked awesome. She then went into detail about her negative experience. So, it was a cool "value demo" and an emotional connection at the same time, very cool. For her, it was a grad school experience of some woman being critical of some of her creative writing.

So, before they left, I gave her my email address - in front of George - because I really do want to read what she wrote. But also...just in case if/when things don't work out with George.

This may sound really shitty, but...they're not married and I could tell there was incongruency between them. So why not plant the seeds of value and connection?

So as they left, I spied a patent of mine and went to chat with them. When I returned, I went to the other end of the table, where another pretty hot girl was sitting. She must've been "vibing" me, because she was "into me" immediately without so much of any opener. We chatted for maybe 5min ,when Cliff showed up, and inexplicably dragged her away (no clue why...maybe he didn't want me working her?), but as she left she grabbed my hand...and shook it...and wouldn't let go! Ha! Oh man!

So juts as THEY were leaving, a trio of super-hot women walked in. It was time to do a total-cold approach. Got another beer, thought of an in, and went for it. My target was a thin, tall, shapely blonde woman, standing talking to a brunette amongst a big group at a high table. So I walked past, then said, "Excuse me!.." and went for it.

Went with the jealous girlfriend opener (a gf gets mad at a guy for having old pics of his ex on his cell). I directed my attention to the brunette and my back turned to the blondie. Good engagement...but then the blonde got called away! F!

So I wound up talking to this other girl (married, wasn't interested in her) and a couple others. Turned out to be a North HS 20-year reunion...which is why the blondie walked off and didn't come back (she wasn't "with" that girl, just chatting). Anyway, it was a scary but good experience, approaching a group of total randos.

By the time I'd finished, all the bday party had left to the Blair arcade (BGD was there last summer). Fun, but few women there. Stayed there wayyy too long and lost momentum, so after midnight I left: went dt for some chow, then home.

GOOD night, though!!