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Ridgeline long

November 3, 2013 (Afternoon)

Exercise Type: Run

Weather: 50s, overcast

Comments:
Did not sleep very well, despite taking care of the car. It just caused a lot of anxiety: being out $250, uncertain about whether or not Huevo is dead...or what it might cost...and even some anxiety about Teresa.

Slept 'til about 9ish PST. Breakfasted, did some light strength, and finally around noon got out for a run.

Super-easy "recovery day" today. No HRM, just focusing on keeping it super easy but still efficient. Listened to two old URP recordings: Meghan/Craig (1/2013) and AJW (8/2011). Fun stuff! LOVE LB's "BGD" explanation! I need to get the BGD (8/2012) recording...

Pretty damn good run, not too sore, running S, the SW to the very western TH of Ridgeline (800' climb up there), then rolling up/down Ridgeline to the top of Baldy (probably another 1000' total climb), then descending into SE Eug/campus.

Good run! First legit back-to-back multi-hour runs in a lonnng time. 2:20 total run time, with about a :15 walk/hike cooldown.

After the run, had a decent nap, then got up and talked with my sis. Filled her in about all my "ladiez", including Chelsea (she was one person I'd talked to); she, of course, is super skeptical/protective, which is good. I welcome it.

After that, I met Teresa at Sam Bond's, telling her I wanted to continue the chat we had Friday night. Interestingly, at first, she was pretty cold and disinterested, almost borderline antagonistic, with some of the chit-chat early. But we got into it, and I explained to her that I felt it was important to know "orientation/motivation". We then talked about some protective mechanisms we often use. She came out and said, "I push people away" (which, I felt, is what she was initially doing that night).

From there, the onion layers began to fall away. She told me about a relationship this winter/spring with a guy (who I know of, who's a DEHCK), who didn't treat her respectfully - just really insecure/selfish and inconsistent; moody, demanding. Just not good. He broke up with her the day before Valentine's day.

They then "hooked up" about a month later...and she got PregZ. Oh shit. He, of course, couldn't handle "a relationship" let alone a child, so she had an abortion. But it didn't end there. He (out of his own shame, clearly), chose to totally shun/ignore her in the presence of others (as they have a lot of mutual run/cycle friends). It was bad. She had a really, really hard time with it. She also had some inconsistent support from her friends.

So, man, that was good to hear - and an obvious motivation on her part (and now mine) to "take things slow". We chatted about some other past relationships, too. I think she has a history of "settling" (in both relationships and life), as well. Good stuff to know.

I told her about the concept of "mission", and how, for me, I try to operate all my relationships based on my mission (helper, nuturer, community), and that if I do that - and I am a good communicator - all relationships will be positive.

Left her that night feeling a lot better about where we're at.